PARENTING TODAY: PROVIDING FOR YOUR CHILDREN
Providing for children especially in today's world, is one of the most daunting task for parents.
Just like my pastor will say, your children didn't chose their parents, they didn't chose the family to be born into. You gave birth to them, therefore by default, you should be up to it in providing for them. It doesn't matter whether you are poor or rich. Children don't want to know whether their mum or dad are working class or not, all they want is for you to provide whatever they need. As a matter of fact, children believe their parents can provide anything they need. That's why you hear children say 'daddy buy me a car, mummy buy me a caterpillar. So if you are having six to seven children, just know that everyone of them has the same right to have what they need from you as a parent.
More interesting is the fact that we have gone past the days of just providing any form of shelter, food, clothing for children. If your child's life is not an improvement of what you had growing up, then you are failing already because times have changed. What should I provide for my children?
1. PROVIDING SHELTER: a home is the first point of call. Note "a home", not just any rickety structure that barely passes for a house. If you value your children, you will provide the accommodation that they deserve. The kind of shelter you provide for your children goes a long way to influence their growing up. You cannot compare a child who has a conducive home to a child who is in a shabby and not good environment. First of all, the child from a shabby home grows up with a LOW SELF ESTEEM especially when interacting with children from better homes. Some children today are ashamed of their homes, and this negatively affects their Psyche take it or leave it.
Very importantly, the environment where you place your children can to a very large extent influence their upbringing. You cannot hope to breed decent, well behaved children in an environment where you have loosed children, hoodlums and social outcasts. No matter how hard you try to grow your children in such environment, they will still be influenced by their surroundings because all living things interface with their environment. Children generally perceive life from the stand point of their homes and environment. In fact the environment shapes their thinking and aspirations.
Parents should do well by providing decent shelter for their children. It must not be luxurious, but at least decent and in a habitable environment. Don't raise children in slums and violent prone areas.
Very important is the fact that environment has health effect on children. According to Lisa Barker, a policy consultant specializing in issues related to children's development.
1. Poor housing conditions increase the risk of sever ill-health or disability by up to 25 percent during childhood and early adulthood.
2. Homeless children are three to four times more likely to have mental health problems, even one year after being re-housed.
3. Children living in over crowded housing are up to 10 times more likely to contact meningitis, and as many as one in three people who grow up in overcrowded housing have respiratory problem in adulthood.
4. Children living in damp, mouldy homes are between one and a half and three times more prone to coughing and wheezing. Symptoms of asthma and other respiratory conditions than children living in dry homes.
This story of a child will leave you thinking.
Eight year old Ben lives with his mother and two brothers in an overcrowded ground floor flat. Shortly after the family moved in, a sever damp and mould problem developed. An environmental health inspector had declared the property unfit for human habitation on two separate occasions. "It's the smell that's almost the worst thing. It's so bad when you come inside the flat" describes Ben's mother Sandra.
Sandra continues " the damp and mould is having sever impact on the children's health, which is affecting their education because they are missing school so often due to illness. My oldest little boy (Ben) is being teased at school because his clothes smell damp, which is affecting his self confidence. It's not right to be told that you smell. Ben is seeing the child psychologist because he has low self esteem.
The condition of the house makes it difficult for him to have friends round to play, which is impacting on his social development.
Ben's five year old brother Adam, hates the house so much that he refuses to come home after school. The other day he just layer on the floor in the play ground until 4pm.
If they we're in a place where they we're happy, it would have been better for their development.
All kids want is to feel normal, you have the responsibility to make them feel normal.
Just like my pastor will say, your children didn't chose their parents, they didn't chose the family to be born into. You gave birth to them, therefore by default, you should be up to it in providing for them. It doesn't matter whether you are poor or rich. Children don't want to know whether their mum or dad are working class or not, all they want is for you to provide whatever they need. As a matter of fact, children believe their parents can provide anything they need. That's why you hear children say 'daddy buy me a car, mummy buy me a caterpillar. So if you are having six to seven children, just know that everyone of them has the same right to have what they need from you as a parent.
More interesting is the fact that we have gone past the days of just providing any form of shelter, food, clothing for children. If your child's life is not an improvement of what you had growing up, then you are failing already because times have changed. What should I provide for my children?
1. PROVIDING SHELTER: a home is the first point of call. Note "a home", not just any rickety structure that barely passes for a house. If you value your children, you will provide the accommodation that they deserve. The kind of shelter you provide for your children goes a long way to influence their growing up. You cannot compare a child who has a conducive home to a child who is in a shabby and not good environment. First of all, the child from a shabby home grows up with a LOW SELF ESTEEM especially when interacting with children from better homes. Some children today are ashamed of their homes, and this negatively affects their Psyche take it or leave it.
Very importantly, the environment where you place your children can to a very large extent influence their upbringing. You cannot hope to breed decent, well behaved children in an environment where you have loosed children, hoodlums and social outcasts. No matter how hard you try to grow your children in such environment, they will still be influenced by their surroundings because all living things interface with their environment. Children generally perceive life from the stand point of their homes and environment. In fact the environment shapes their thinking and aspirations.
Parents should do well by providing decent shelter for their children. It must not be luxurious, but at least decent and in a habitable environment. Don't raise children in slums and violent prone areas.
Very important is the fact that environment has health effect on children. According to Lisa Barker, a policy consultant specializing in issues related to children's development.
1. Poor housing conditions increase the risk of sever ill-health or disability by up to 25 percent during childhood and early adulthood.
2. Homeless children are three to four times more likely to have mental health problems, even one year after being re-housed.
3. Children living in over crowded housing are up to 10 times more likely to contact meningitis, and as many as one in three people who grow up in overcrowded housing have respiratory problem in adulthood.
4. Children living in damp, mouldy homes are between one and a half and three times more prone to coughing and wheezing. Symptoms of asthma and other respiratory conditions than children living in dry homes.
This story of a child will leave you thinking.
Eight year old Ben lives with his mother and two brothers in an overcrowded ground floor flat. Shortly after the family moved in, a sever damp and mould problem developed. An environmental health inspector had declared the property unfit for human habitation on two separate occasions. "It's the smell that's almost the worst thing. It's so bad when you come inside the flat" describes Ben's mother Sandra.
Sandra continues " the damp and mould is having sever impact on the children's health, which is affecting their education because they are missing school so often due to illness. My oldest little boy (Ben) is being teased at school because his clothes smell damp, which is affecting his self confidence. It's not right to be told that you smell. Ben is seeing the child psychologist because he has low self esteem.
The condition of the house makes it difficult for him to have friends round to play, which is impacting on his social development.
Ben's five year old brother Adam, hates the house so much that he refuses to come home after school. The other day he just layer on the floor in the play ground until 4pm.
If they we're in a place where they we're happy, it would have been better for their development.
All kids want is to feel normal, you have the responsibility to make them feel normal.
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